Posted by Thistle on June 02, 2002 at 21:14:33:
In Reply to: Re: the lack of accuntablity in the church..i find it appaling posted by Mister Metal on June 01, 2002 at 09:55:56:
: : Your desire to be accountable is good. Unfortunately, a lot of people aren't truly receptive to being held accountable. In some cases, the big "pride monster" rears his ugly head and the brother/sister who tries to hold one accountable is considered "legalistic" or "judgmental." Consequently, many people ARE (oops, I just noticed my typo) reticent to hold others accountable. If you are really eager to be held accountable, you need to make yourself accountable to someone that you respect. Let that person, or those people, know that you desire to be held accountable. The best way to be discipled is to be a disciple. How's that for circular logic?
: um well yes and no..i have reached out to people and have let a few men i know of my desire to be accountable..these are men i respect and feel have a good relationship with God..i juss know that at times these men have thier own things they gotta worry about and that they may be already discipling others..so i dont try to insist..i make the request known..thats all i can do..and i try my best to look out for people..i juss feel really discouraged..because this is not how it should be..i know people such as myself who are discouraged...this should not be in the church..there should be more of a sense of community..yet there is not...there should be a concern over the one person that stops goin to your church and not really a concern that much for those who are already plugged in...how about worrying about those who you know are in need...or stop goin to church..well i juss notice a lotta stuff and it tends to bother me...because this is why many dont want to go to church...
and really can you blame them???
No, I really can't blame them. If I didn't have the church family that I am blessed with, I wouldn't go to church either. Our friends are some of the very few people who I know will always love us unconditionally. They have stuck by Steve and me through some of our toughest times. They aren't perfect, but they're just right for me:) I'm sorry that you've been burned. I hope that you find the authenticity and companionship that you are searching for.