Posted by k@ on June 27, 2002 at 19:28:34:
In Reply to: Yes, that's right.... posted by Lucifer on June 27, 2002 at 19:05:19:
: : : : i have dated so much in the past year..that i have realized that it was a big priority in my life..and i kinda had my whole life revolved around it..plys a lotta people playing games..and so much heartache..the dating scene is so cutt throat..i am so over it..i am serious about not dating for a year at least and i want to get where i need to be with GOD and i need to be friends to those who need friends..and i juss need to serve people..and not worry about silly things that dont matter like havin a fine mamasita on my arm..
: : : : its so not important...yeah well thats all i have gotta say for now..
: : : : steps off the soapbox.
: : : . . . . walking by slips on the soapbox slides across the room & " Bonk " Wow look at all the pretty stars . . . .
: : : Good thought Metal, I need to follow in your footsteps. I have wasted to much of my life on finding someone to like me for me, reality has shown me all I need for that is too open my eyes. There are people all around for that. They always say when you stop looking is when it happens. Who knows huh . . .
I think you miss the point, X
MM is making a choice not to date, and not to even look at someone "that" way. This sounds depressing, but speaking as someone who is in the same place, it is really cool to be there.
It is so nice to see a person of the opposite sex and not think, "hmmm, I wonder if they are single, I wonder if they would like me, etc."
Not that you don't ever think those thoughts, it's just, well, you squash them and then you look at girls and boys and think gee, I really like that sister, or brother. I would like to form a friendship and get to know them without any pressure of the whole dating thing.
See, it's really beautiful and you have all this freedom. You can talk to anyone you want and be friends with whomever you want and you never have to perform for anyone.
And the really, really cool thing about it is. When you are ready to meet your mate, you won't be all tied up frantically looking or dating and being distracted by other people. God will gently pull you and your mate together. I'm sure it will be someone you already know. I'm sure that it will be natural and beautiful and right. I hope so anyway.
: : yeah its kind of like...dont get me wrong..i would so like to have someone to like me for me..but as of now..its so not about me anymore..its a hard thing to say..because i think that too many people..myself included do things in the guise of what may be in it for them..and i dont want to look at gurls as..hey she may be my lady someday..thats so not rite..its hard..cuz i tell ya..now that i made this promise to myself..all of the sudden..there are gurls..who come out the blue..who show interest..well its been here and there..i mean at work and all..i am sure that it wont get any easier as the days progress..but thats ok..i will endure.
And yes MM, I know exactly what you are talking about. I think it is wrong to look at the opposite sex and evaluate them as potential mates. I hate it when I catch myself doing it. It certainly will get easier because God knows where your heart is and the thing you need to do is recognize that we all are the bride of Christ. Jesus wants to be your everything and He is waiting to fufil all your needs for a mate. He will be your comfort in those long nights and when you submit all your thoughts to Him, He will make them pure. I know it. It's better than I can describe it. All I know is He is sufficient, and I don't have to just endure I can rejoice!
Listen, it's been a year since I have had what the world calls a relationship and I am HAPPY!