Posted by Mister Metal the socially inept on September 09, 2002 at 10:25:33:
In Reply to: It's not about everyone else, it's about me... posted by thistle on September 07, 2002 at 16:54:29:
: BTW, I think you did a great job at making my point. The whole point of my message about "everyone hating me because I suck" was to let Raul know that there are other people out there who have feelings of inadequacy. Oftentimes, though, those feelings are not shared by those whom you project those feelings on. In other words, I feel like I suck so I imagine that everyone else feels that way about me too. The thoughts may be true to some extent (you may suck a little), but those feelings are often only self-validated. This is not to say that everyone is able to overlook our flaws, it just says that people who are focused on God are better able to see the good in us. They see what is special about you, not the hurt person who does harm to his or her own self-concept. Does that make any sense?
: : : BTW, I often feel like I suck, and everyone hates me.
: : : Yes--and I often feel boring to other people. But they keep telling me I'm not. Still I can visibly see it on their face when I begin to get boring, and they still deny it, but I know. They start looking like they want to leave. Ohhhh---I'm horrible w social skills.
: : : Bill
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: : Bill,
: : You are not boring, and your social skills are just fine. I am shocked that you even feel that way. The fact that people keep interrupting your conversations with Kristi should be evidence of the fact that people enjoy your company. I guess it goes to show you that we all have our insecurities that we struggle with.
i think that cari is one of the most beautiful people i know of...even angela the lil punk rock chica i took with me to church a few weeks ago was goin off on how adorable thistle is..i just had to gracefully agree with her..so when ya think that no one appreciates ya...you are so mistaken cari..sometimes i feel like some kid who has nothin to bring to the convo except my insecurities..and my "good" taste in music..but somehow..people like thistle just make me feel so at home...i am just really feelin thistle lately..yes i am..who likes her poetry??....looks around..raises his hand..i sure do...