Posted by kat on February 08, 2003 at 16:54:12:
In Reply to: friends..whats a friend? well..explain posted by Mister Metal on February 06, 2003 at 23:45:48:
: k..all this talk about friends..from so many people.i have heard people tell me oh this person is my friend that person is my friend..whats a friend?
: a foe..or there in time of trouble..or a wolf in sheeps clothing ready to devour within a moments notice..really whats all this deal about friends?
: explain someone please..cuz i honestly dont get it..and havent yet.
: i think about this a lot..many claim to be a friend and have friends..what is a friend?
: well i do my best to be a friend..that i do..i am available to others..and have done my part to serve others...but having a friend is another different story...i dont seem to have any fleshy beings around me when troubles arise and when i need them..so this makes me doubt this whole terminology of friendship..if it even exists truly within the framework of mutual friendship..and is that all of the sudden a bound contract just cause one has someone who acknowledges your needs and you do the same for them and do what you can to minister to that need;reaffirming them and their place in relation to you...
: in these past few weeks i have seen what i thought was a friend come tumbling down into a pile of rubble..those who i thought were friends i am highly doubting..and those who were in the background working behind the scenes seem to show more valor and relevancy in regards to this "friendship" deal i am talking about.
: i just would like to see what yall think about this..well if anyone cares to speak about this..i am long winded at times and like to go on and on about a subject and dissect it..placing all severed and quartered parts onto an observation table to analyze,take notes on,and there i come with some kind of conclusion..that may or may not be theorem..its just how i work.
: so if anyone cares to talk about it..then lets do so..cuz i just felt like gettin deep..so here we go..
Ok well, I have read everything so far, the way I define friendship is simple. Anyone who crosses my path and can accept me for who I am is a friend. Sometimes I can feel that someone just does not dig me, for whatever reason, that is sometimes hard for me to take sometimes not. I am a insecure person who is becoming more secure and it's obvious to me there are people who are open to friendship any day, others not so much OR only on their terms, and then there are those who's doors are closed for now or forever. Hey! I already have some of the best friends I could possibly want! Thistle is right! We got some friends here that are always ready to accept you however you are.
I have got other friends who I have known for decades and even though I don't talk to them avery day they are lifelong friends I cherish! The rest just kind of fall by the wayside eventually. Atrue friend may not drop everything the minute you call, but you know that in hard times they are there for you. The others will show their true intentions eventually, but every person you become aquainted with has a purpose in your life I believe. It's not all about friendship or defining friendship because God's purpose is even bigger than that. If all my friends left me tomorrow (which I know they wouldn't) I know that Jesus is still there and has a purpose for my life with or without friends, I know that people are in my life to love me and support me, but I have to be able to live without them because God is my source.
I love you all please don't abandon me!
-kat