Posted by quequel on August 21, 2002 at 20:58:51:
In Reply to: Re: honesty..the sting of being real posted by giveawayboy on August 21, 2002 at 00:59:50:
: : i just realized that very few people can handle when one is real..honestly i dont get that..its almost like people want to not hear the truth all the time..
True statement--people believe they want to hear the truth all the time, but in reality,
people don't always want to hear the truth unless it's sprinkled with hope. For example, I
know I'm overweight. Depending on my mood, I might be motivated by Suze Meredith telling me
that weight loss is as easy as making up your mind. Or I might be comforted in knowing that
Aretha Franklin has millions of fans but is "well-rounded." More often,I just want my
conversation with someone to NOT focus on the obvious truth, but to focus on deep
conversation or laughing or total intellectualization of the impossible number, -1.
well its somethin i have observed in my zeal to be expressive of how i feel at everytime..this has made people at times just not knowin what to say..and kinda intimidated..
Most people want to know when another is hurting, they want to comfort or understand.
However, some people hurt all the time, and talking about it all the time can bring both
parties down, as is common with an overdose of self-focus. I continually have to stop myself
from complaining, and sometimes I actually succeed! Not often enough, though.
i just wish that people would see honesty for what it is..just take it for face value..instead of thinkin its a foreign thing..when really we should all be honest to one another..
I wish people would see honesty for what it is. Too often, we take what someone says as
gospel truth instead of opinion, and most of the time we believe that action is necessary--
either we have to fix the other person's problem, or we think they're trying to fix us.
now i am not tryin to say i am all that..just think that this is a nice concept...i just wish that some people would learn to take me being honest to them as that..and not rack their brains with it..just take it for face value and say..hey he is real..rather then get all uncomfortable..i think that some people are afraid to be real...
: : why is this?? somebody help explain as i never have..and who knows probly never will grasp this "fake is better notion" mentality of the masses...
Honesty, with social grace, is always better than fake. It's a balance that is difficult to
attain, but lovely to be around.