Posted by Mister Metal on August 22, 2002 at 00:17:18:
In Reply to: Re: honesty..the sting of being real posted by quequel on August 21, 2002 at 20:58:51:
: : : i just realized that very few people can handle when one is real..honestly i dont get that..its almost like people want to not hear the truth all the time..
: True statement--people believe they want to hear the truth all the time, but in reality,
: people don't always want to hear the truth unless it's sprinkled with hope. For example, I
: know I'm overweight. Depending on my mood, I might be motivated by Suze Meredith telling me
: that weight loss is as easy as making up your mind. Or I might be comforted in knowing that
: Aretha Franklin has millions of fans but is "well-rounded." More often,I just want my
: conversation with someone to NOT focus on the obvious truth, but to focus on deep
: conversation or laughing or total intellectualization of the impossible number, -1.
: well its somethin i have observed in my zeal to be expressive of how i feel at everytime..this has made people at times just not knowin what to say..and kinda intimidated..
: Most people want to know when another is hurting, they want to comfort or understand.
: However, some people hurt all the time, and talking about it all the time can bring both
: parties down, as is common with an overdose of self-focus. I continually have to stop myself
: from complaining, and sometimes I actually succeed! Not often enough, though.
: i just wish that people would see honesty for what it is..just take it for face value..instead of thinkin its a foreign thing..when really we should all be honest to one another..
: I wish people would see honesty for what it is. Too often, we take what someone says as
: gospel truth instead of opinion, and most of the time we believe that action is necessary--
: either we have to fix the other person's problem, or we think they're trying to fix us.
: now i am not tryin to say i am all that..just think that this is a nice concept...i just wish that some people would learn to take me being honest to them as that..and not rack their brains with it..just take it for face value and say..hey he is real..rather then get all uncomfortable..i think that some people are afraid to be real...
: : : why is this?? somebody help explain as i never have..and who knows probly never will grasp this "fake is better notion" mentality of the masses...
: Honesty, with social grace, is always better than fake. It's a balance that is difficult to
: attain, but lovely to be around.
well honestly kristi..you aint like all as big as you think you are..a lil curves never hurt a lady..fasho..like i am suthern..thats a good thing..
and its not that i am complainin all the time..its just nice to be open to hear each other out..and communication is nice too..to just know that you are on the same page with the other person is so nice..and its comforting to know..
i guess i just get way into my head..just goin by how i think things should be thats all..and while i have not attained..i know i have not..i have a long way to go..i just wish people were more open to communicate and to listen..some are..i just get freakin frustrated with people..thats how i feel most the time..just really frustrated with people..