Posted by giveawayboy on January 14, 2003 at 08:51:45:
In Reply to: Re: I always feel alone posted by kat on January 14, 2003 at 06:51:04:
Kat said: I feel very much the same as Bill, he eloquently expressed many sentiments I have. The question I have for him is: "What exactly would be an ideal 'close' relationship to Bill. How would that manefest itself. Does it have something to do with frequency of contact? Or can it withstand distance and time and is it more emotional in nature. Do you have to define it person by person?
Bill: Well, I think my ideal of a close relationship might still be evolving, but ideals have to brought into the real world. So, my actual relationships for the school where I will test out all my working hypotheses. Still I think it has alot to do with a person by person approach.
Kat: I have people I would consider close, and yet it might be years since I have seen them last, or months since I last spoke with them. They are not active in my life. Yet I hold them close in my heart and should we meet again, it would be as if we just picked up were we left off. Does that fit into your definition, I wonder?"
Bill: Oh sure, it fits. I am friends with the Vaughans for instance but it takes awhile for us to ever get together. Still, I feel like we just pick up where we left off, or better yet, we just start fresh. I think this is a great characteristic. Still, I don't rule out the possibility of meeting someone who I might see more frequently. And such a person would not change my friendship with the Vaughans. It would just be a different friendship. Hope that helps.