Posted by thistle on January 11, 2003 at 08:33:18:
In Reply to: am i destined..... posted by pathetic on January 11, 2003 at 01:07:47:
Like Tiffany, I certainly have nothing profound to say, but I do understand how you feel. I am one who has been haunted by my past. It is really hard to deal with history because you can't go back and undo the things you've done. How I have wished that my past was a bad dream that really never happened. Sometimes I feel like I'm drowning in an ocean of self-hatred and despair. My life preserver, so to speak, is that I can see that God has made me into a new creation, imperfect though I still may be. There is something that is beautiful in me that is still hidden below the many layers corruption. God, in his infinite mercy, is chipping away at those layers as quickly as I allow. Just remember, while you can't change the past, you can change the future. Focus on what you can do to make today a better day. One of my friends once told me that I need to love myself and see myself as the beautiful princess that I am. While I tend to feel more like a royal bitch than a "beautiful princess," that advice has really helped me feel worthwhile. I send out a big thank you to that friend. Don't feel stupid and alone. You have more company than you may realize.
: ...to forever be stupid?
: what gives with me? why is it that no matter how much i want to do good... no scratch that... no matter how much i want to live my life better than i have... to get out of the lifestyle that is slowly destroying me.... it seems to always be there... winning
: every time i take my focused concentration off of it, i end up back in the midst of doing things that make me hate myself. part of me hates it because i see that it is detroying me... not actually killing me outright but starving me... but part of me is latching onto what i hate, holding onto it as if it is the best i will ever have... is it...? will it be...?
: i don't know how to let go of my past... how to stop letting it control me... how to stop trying to maintain control over myself to present the "everything is wonderful" facade. it just hit me tonight and i happened to be online looking at the board... i guess the planets are in alignment or the timing was perfect or something... i think it is funny that i am writing this... i don't know what i am expecting this to do... but right now... it just seemed right...
: maybe i just wanted to vent in a way that i didn't have to explain all the things that are making me feel this way... maybe someone will say something profound that will break me...
: i don't know...